We are all issued a position in life. Sometimes, it’s from birth, sometimes there is an incident that happens at some point in our lives that solidifies our position. Sometimes we just “come into our own”. Sometimes it’s a position that we slowly let ourselves slip into. But for some reason, everybody else generally knows our position except for us. I think the world would be alot nicer (less killin’ and stabbin’ and just more personal happiness) if people just played their position. So here’s my question….
When it comes to relationships, why is it that most people don’t play their positions (or as some like to say…”stay in their lane”)?
Answer this question for yourself; In a room full of 20 people that represented everyone in the world (all women if you’re a woman and all men if you’re a man), where would you fit? Top 10? Bottom 10? Top 5? OK, so only a few people would put themselves where they actually are. But that’s not the point. The point is, if you are in the top 5, then you probably have nothing to worry about. Let’s also think about “the scale”….The Scale of ONE to TEN. Where do you fit on The Scale? Reality (and most of the social or dating networks out there) shows me that alot of people think they are shiny new dimes when in fact they may be a well used nickel….or even a nickel plus two pennies. But really the point is, if you’re a 7, then be the best 7 that you can be. Why are you upset that a dude that normally dates dimes only sleeps with you as a 7??? Because as a 7, you may be “doable”, but NOT wifey material. Then you, Ms. 7, are always complaining about being used. Recognize that you are not a dime, but you are/can be queen of the 7’s!!! Now if you are a dude that works out religiously and has a bangin’ body, but can’t string two sentences together and have a wandering eye, then why are you stalkin’ me when I told you NO the first time. Why can’t you understand that your body may be a 10, but overall you may be a 7? I will admit that I have had some closet relations with sexy dudes that I had NO intentions of introducing to ANYBODY in my family, but uhhh…NO…you will NOT be coming to the family reunion, Mr. Gold Fronts (Did I let that slip out????). You are only good for a late night creep…so play your position, buddy! (And in case you were WONDERING….a wandering eye is a definite deal breaker even on the late night creep!!!!)
Also….let’s talk about playing our position in relationships. Are you wifey? Are you sure? Then you need read no further. If you are NOT wifey, then what are you?? Somebody he’s dating? His side piece? Now…it’s OK to be “somebody he’s dating” if you know about her/them and she/them also know about you. But when ONLY you know about her and she DOESN’T know about you, then no matter what he tells you, you are simply the side piece. And that’s OK as long as you what????? Play your position. If you are the side piece, then don’t make him your priority when you are simply an exciting option for him. Don’t become wifey to him without the “ring”. Are you always available and not seeing anybody else so that whenever he calls, you’re “RETT TA GO”? If you are the side piece, then you have to have other folx in your life so he doesn’t become “too comfortable”. If you are the side piece and you KNOW that, then don’t go around boilin’ rabbits and takin’ his kids to the carnival without permission. That is simply NOT playing your position. If you no longer WANT to be the side piece, then get OUT, don’t get MAD (at him anyway). Play your position and when your position is played, move on.
Now men can also be the side piece, but they really can’t handle it as well. Men are jealous and possessive creatures. They do NOT like to know that another man is creeping up in their “space”. Hell….they don’t even like the attention you give ya damn kids! So they don’t do well, BUT it’s still up to the female in this situation to let all parties know what’s what. So men, if you know you are just the dude the side…then don’t be sending the sexy eye to her and givin’ her dude the gas face so that you blow up her spot while she’s out with her REAL man. Like Biggie said, “Why blow up my spot cuz we both got hot??!!” All of this up front convo prevents the aforementioned killin’ and stabbin’ when folx find out that they are really not #1.
Hey…we live in a cosmetic society….I didn’t make it so and neither did you, but it’s a fact!! Folx still want their kids to have “nice” hair (whatever that is) to the point of giving them weaves and perms under the age of 5. Everyone wants to be attractive to others. Everyone wants to be in the Top 5. No matter what your preacher or life coach tells you, doing daily affirmations that tell yourself that you are a cutie does not make it so. So re-evaluate and reassess and most of all BE honest with yourself. and your relationships.. and play the best position that you can, because in the end you’ll be a happier player in the game of life.
PS: For a small fee, I can help you with your position, if you want….just send me a shout (and a picture and some dating/family history), but be ready for the honest truth. (Just jokin’…sorta…but not really).
So here’s to winning at the Game of Life!